Thinking out loud.
So, let me get this straight. A person can stop paying child support for how ever long they want to, yet when child support enforces action against them to collect, the receiving parent is deemed "Money Hungry" and is made out to look like the big bad wolf? Because, how dare they hold you accountable for your financial obligation to your child/ren?
Believe it or not, this is the sad reality of way too many parents.
The most selfish thing is when the paying parent threatens to take the receiving parent back to court for custody because they are tired of the bullshit. (Bullshit meaning having to pay child support).
Because that's a legitimate reason to go back to court, right?
In that situation, it amazes me that they would rather chance their child/ren's happiness by dragging them through a legal fight and spend thousands of dollars in court costs instead of simply paying their child support on time. Those parents obviously do not have the child/ren's best interest at heart, their interest lies with themselves, and their need to "get back" at the other parent. They think that if they go to court, the judge will just award them custody and they'll be free from child support and the other parent. Which is as far from reality as it gets. They don't realize that their actions directly affect their child/ren. Those child/ren will have to endure hours in a courtroom, questions from attorneys, having to watch the 2 people they love the most in the world, fighting with each other. Simply because the paying parent doesn't want to honor their financial obligation for their child/ren. It's sad really, when you sit down and think about the thought process that a person who would put their child/ren through that goes through.
Amazingly, those people actually have other people on their side, cheering them on. Be it a wife/husband, family member, friend. You'd think someone in that circle would be the voice of reason. I will tell you that if my husband would have ever tried to justify skipping out on his child support for my step-daughter, or if he'd disrespected his ex in any way; I would've been the first one to put him in his place. I wouldn't have been cheering him on. What would that say about me if I did that? Don't they realize that they are only one break-up away from being in the same situation as the receiving parent, if they also share children with that person?
Believe it or not, this is the sad reality of way too many parents.
The most selfish thing is when the paying parent threatens to take the receiving parent back to court for custody because they are tired of the bullshit. (Bullshit meaning having to pay child support).
Because that's a legitimate reason to go back to court, right?
In that situation, it amazes me that they would rather chance their child/ren's happiness by dragging them through a legal fight and spend thousands of dollars in court costs instead of simply paying their child support on time. Those parents obviously do not have the child/ren's best interest at heart, their interest lies with themselves, and their need to "get back" at the other parent. They think that if they go to court, the judge will just award them custody and they'll be free from child support and the other parent. Which is as far from reality as it gets. They don't realize that their actions directly affect their child/ren. Those child/ren will have to endure hours in a courtroom, questions from attorneys, having to watch the 2 people they love the most in the world, fighting with each other. Simply because the paying parent doesn't want to honor their financial obligation for their child/ren. It's sad really, when you sit down and think about the thought process that a person who would put their child/ren through that goes through.
Amazingly, those people actually have other people on their side, cheering them on. Be it a wife/husband, family member, friend. You'd think someone in that circle would be the voice of reason. I will tell you that if my husband would have ever tried to justify skipping out on his child support for my step-daughter, or if he'd disrespected his ex in any way; I would've been the first one to put him in his place. I wouldn't have been cheering him on. What would that say about me if I did that? Don't they realize that they are only one break-up away from being in the same situation as the receiving parent, if they also share children with that person?
No matter how much you may dislike the other parent, you still have an obligation to the child/ren you share. It's not about you or your ex, it's about the kids and their best interest. You suck it up and act like an adult and work together for the sake of your child/ren. Sadly, it doesn't always work out like that.
My question to those parents, who are so upset that they are finally held accountable for their financial obligation to their own child/ren... Where do you think the money to provide for your child/ren comes from when you decide you don't want to pay your child support and/or your half of the cost for the child/ren?
I'll tell you where it comes from. Overtime at work, taking side jobs, getting a second or third job, for some, it requires them to have to apply for public assistance; it also comes from your child/ren having to miss out on certain things, because they have to put food on the table instead. Money surely doesn't grow on trees, someone has to step up and provide for those child/ren.
You see, parents who receive child support are not "Money Hungry", nor are they out to get anyone, they simply want to be able to provide the best possible life for their child/ren that they can.
So put down your pitchforks people and look at the big picture. Children are only little for a little while, instead of fighting about your obligation to your child/ren, be grateful that you have them. And be grateful that they have another parent who loves them and only wants the very best for them, regardless of how you feel about each other.
~Supermom
My question to those parents, who are so upset that they are finally held accountable for their financial obligation to their own child/ren... Where do you think the money to provide for your child/ren comes from when you decide you don't want to pay your child support and/or your half of the cost for the child/ren?
I'll tell you where it comes from. Overtime at work, taking side jobs, getting a second or third job, for some, it requires them to have to apply for public assistance; it also comes from your child/ren having to miss out on certain things, because they have to put food on the table instead. Money surely doesn't grow on trees, someone has to step up and provide for those child/ren.
I can assure you, that parent that you refuse to pay child support to, is working their tail off to make up for you not helping so that their child/ren may not have to miss out on certain things. Because, after all, it's not a luxury for them to receive child support, you're not doing them a favor. You're simply supposed to be stepping up and supporting your child/ren. Period.
You see, parents who receive child support are not "Money Hungry", nor are they out to get anyone, they simply want to be able to provide the best possible life for their child/ren that they can.
So put down your pitchforks people and look at the big picture. Children are only little for a little while, instead of fighting about your obligation to your child/ren, be grateful that you have them. And be grateful that they have another parent who loves them and only wants the very best for them, regardless of how you feel about each other.
~Supermom
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